Maybe it’s happened once, or maybe it’s happened several times now. Mild, moderate or severe. It might be obvious what’s happening or difficult to understand. ED can be a sexual minefield.
Sometimes, the first thing a partner might do in a relationship is look inwardly and feel as if they’re doing something wrong.
The first thing a partner might do is look for help or advice on how to deal with erectile dysfunction in a marriage or relationship; or even turn their attention inwardly, and consider how to be more ‘sexually attractive’ for a boyfriend or partner.
‘Self-blaming thoughts aren’t healthy’, comments Dr. Atkinson ‘It’s extremely unlikely that something you yourself are doing is causing the problem. Blaming yourself will not serve anybody and might even make things worse.
If your partner didn’t want to have sex with you, they probably wouldn’t try. In the vast majority of circumstances, they are exactly where they want to be.
The fact they are struggling with erection problems despite this is just one reason the problem becomes worse. It can feel embarrassing and is difficult to open up about. This all comes back to the idea of ‘performance.’ A sense of sexual duty is a very real concern, and it’s something we still need to work hard to address.’